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A look at sugar dating

In case you haven’t heard, there’s an interesting trend going on in the dating world involving sugar daddies and sugar babies. If this sounds like some type of transactional service, it’s not.

Instead, it’s all about pairing men with intellectual and financial means with women who are looking for guys of sophistication.

Don’t take our word for it. Instead, check out the description of a “Sugar Daddy” on the website, Secret Benefits.

According to their description page:

“A sugar daddy is a successful man who knows exactly what he wants from a relationship.

He wants to generously share his lifestyle and experience with an attractive woman.”

So, you may be wondering what exactly Sugar Daddies do? Is it a pay for play situation (which in most places would be illegal) or does it involve something more?

Per the Secret Benefits website, “Daddies” do a number of things. These include:


“A successful Sugar Daddy knows what it takes to be successful in this world and shares that experience with his Sugar Baby.”

Financial Help

“Sugar daddies are financially stable and generous. They know getting through college and paying the bills can be a struggle and are happy to help a girl out.”

Lifestyle Upgrade

“Sugar Daddies are already living the life you dreamed of and want to share the luxurious lifestyle they worked hard for with their Sugar Baby.”


“A sugar daddy can put you in a whole new social circle, full of wealthy influential people. What better way to climb the ladder than with a sugar daddy at your side?”

With the proliferation of the Internet, there has been a giant demand for dating websites. Unfortunately, that has led to a lot of entries into the industry – some of whom are a bit shady.

According to a review appearing on Ask Men, Secret Benefits appears to offer a legitimate dating service whereby men can put themselves out there for “Sugar Daddy” arrangements.

What we found interesting was a post appearing on the site’s blog entitled: “She’s Not Your Employee, Fellas”. It basically informs men that the relationship between sugar babies [the ladies] and sugar daddies is not transactional.

Instead, the focus is on symbiosis whereby reciprocity is the name of the game. To quote from the piece:

“The relationship between a sugar baby and her sugar daddy is reciprocal, not transactional.  You’re not paying her a “salary,” you’re giving her an “allowance.””

So, are men embracing these types of relationships? A quick search of the web reveals that may very well be the case. And what about women – are they digging it?

That is hard to know but according to an article on Cosmopolitan, there certainly seems to be a great deal of interest.