Welcome to Guy Counseling – a learning and education blog for men. I created this website for one simple reason – to help guys get answers to questions that are important to them.
The truth is much of what we see on the Internet today about men’s topics lacks substance. Worse, a lot of sites seem to be focused on selling stereotypes about what it means to be a man.
As a counselor and educator who specializes men’s issues, I’ve learned that masculinity isn’t a function of “manliness”. Instead, it’s a mindset, carried out by living a confident life.
Big difference, don’t you think?
Behind closed doors, in the safety of the counseling office, here is what I’ve learned about men:
- Guys are interested in topics like self-care, men’s grooming, skill development and dating but struggle talking about it.
- Men respond best when you speak in their language.
- Generally , guys are more open to advice when you challenge them through coaching.
- It’s better to use solution focused approaches rather than talking everything to death.
- Using stereotypes can often do more harm than good.
Men and Society
Too many men’s magazines seem to focus on so called “manly” topics, like working out, sex, sports and attracting the ladies. While these are certainly of interest to guys, there’s a universe of other areas that often get neglected. Specifically, I’m talking about how to be a guy in a way that works for you.
Guy Counseling seeks to fill in the gap and offer an alternative for men who want to move beyond the stereotypes. Here, you’ll find articles that speak to a wide body of issues that men care about.
In short, the GC Blog is designed to help men live the best life possible, with an eye towards male issues. We delve into all things “man” – from psychological constructs to skill building. We also seek to educate and inform, helping men to create a mystique that is unique to who they are. Additionally, we assist guys in developing a better understanding of how to take care of themselves and the people they love.
The end goal of GC is to combine modern constructs of manliness, devoid of stereotypes, and create a pathway to living a more meaningful, enriching, and confident life.
Ultimately, Guy Counseling wants to help readers to become the best men they can be – including the best fathers, boyfriends, husbands, brothers and neighbors as part of a modern generation of strong men.
Real Topics for Real Guys on Men’s Blog
The Guy Counseling website features topics on its men’s blog that are important to guys – but get little attention because of long standing social taboos that exist in our culture.
Examples include “real world” men’s health and wellness topics presented in a straight forward, easy to understand way. It’s just better that way – don’t you think?
Here’s just a sample of some of what you will see on GC:
- Building guy skills
- Men’s grooming tips
- Men’s health issues
- Male psychology
- Career tips
- Relationship issues
What About the Guy Counselor…
There’s not a lot to tell. I teach college courses related to psychology and wellness at the graduate and undergraduate level. From time to time, I also contribute to different magazines and blogs, including Men’s Health, Men’s Fitness and Psychcentral.
For “Ha Ha’s” I earned a PhD in Behavioral Psychology. I also hold MBA with a focus on Health Care and a Master’s in Wellness Promotion. I’m a licensed mental health counselor and hold certifications in addictions and hypnotherapy. With that shared, please see my disclaimer as nothing on this website should be used as a substitute for medical or psychiatric care.
What else? Well, most all of the work that I’ve done in the counseling and coaching world is focused on men’s problems and issues. Here, I am talking about things like relationships, wellness and reaching life goals. I’m just a regular guy, probably no much different than you.
Everything else about me is pretty boring. I live in Chicago and have been with my partner for over 20 years. During winter, I try to jet out to the west coast, Caribbean and other places because I dig being around the ocean and warm weather. In summer, I tag around the Midwest for outdoor activities.
Fitness is a big part of my life, which is part of the reason you’ll see a bunch of posts on this topic. You can read more about my professional background and credentials on the “Guy Counselor” page.