The good, bad, and ugly on the Sagittarius man
By: Chris Knight
Are you attracted to a Sagittarius man? Trying to understand how Sagittarius men operate in love and relationships? Hoping to gain better insight into this fire sign?
If your answer is yes, you’ve come to the right place. A lot of people are attracted to Sag men for reasons they can’t always explain.
Maybe you can relate?
My hope in penning this piece is to help you better understand the Sagittarius mind. A lot of what appears on the web about this sign is ambiguous (at best) or filled with nonsense.
I should know because I am a Sagittarius man.
During the course of my lifetime, I’ve spent untold hours studying ancient mysticism with a focus on astrology. Because my sign has a passion for the truth, I’ve been on a quest for knowledge with the singular goal of better understanding what makes Sagittarius tick.
Now before I get too far into things, I want to share with you that I’m not a psychic or an astrologer.
Instead, I’m just a guy that happens to be really attuned with karmic teachings and highly interested in psycho-spirituality. In case you don’t know what that term means, psycho-spiritualism is really just a blending of psychology and spirituality.
To be completely transparent, I gained help with writing this piece from a shaman who happens to be a Virgo. In my life, I have found seeking insight from others who study ancient lore can help to create a fuller picture of a person’s true essence.
Now that I have laid it all out, it’s time to explore the 25 truths about Sag men in love and relationships.
1. He’s going to be super optimistic
As a tribe, most of us are very optimistic. Even in the face of difficult news, we try to look at the bright side. This doesn’t mean we minimize things when something bad that happens. But it does mean we try to find the silver lining.
Part of this is because there’s an inherent part of us that knows, deep inside, the future is going to be amazing. In truth, this is a trait for most all fire signs but particularly among sag men.
2. He’ll crave excitement
If you are a woman dating one of us, expect a lot of excitement. That’s because, to a fault, Sag men crave new experiences and really like to be entertained.
This is difficult to say but I’ll level with you – we bore easily. That’s why so many of us suck with routines and aren’t so great with things staying the same. Sags are considered mutable signs, meaning we like to adapt and adjust.
3. He doesn’t like being tied down
This is a trait that may be difficult to read but you came here for the real deal, right? Sag men (as a tribe) don’t like to be tied down. It’s not that we can’t commit to another in romantic relationships. We can. But it takes a very special person to make that happen.
If you get too clingy or try to control us, we usually bolt – fast. Much of our ability to connect and commit depends on chemistry and mutual levels of excitement.
4. He’ll be naturally curious
If there is one thing that can be said about us it is this: we are super curious. This means we want to understand how things work and what makes them tick.
I’ve talked to a lot of Sagittarius guys and it seems like we all share this characteristic. You should know this curiosity isn’t just about things we like, such as science and nature. It also applies to you – meaning he want to get to know all of you.
5. He’s going to be impatient
It sucks to have to write this but I am just keeping it real. Sag men are super impatient. I think this is another universal trait for fire signs, like Leo and Aries.
In simple speak, this means we know what we want and there’s no having to guess. The problem, of course, is that many of us can be impulsive, causing us to not fully think out if something is good or bad for us.
Depending on how you look at things, this can be a blessing or a curse. That said, we are definitely the type to “go get em”.
6. He’s going see the big picture
This is another characteristic that can be viewed as either a pro or con. Most of us are “big picture” kind of people. It’s why so many of us are creative and have a great sense of vision. Is it any wonder why a lot of us are employed in business, marketing and sales?
The downside, unfortunately, is that we often miss important details. I’m talking about not remembering your birthday or forgetting an important anniversary.
This is why if you are dating a sag guy, you’ve got to be comfortable reminding him of things. I promise you won’t offend. Most all of us know getting the details right is one of our biggest deficits.
7. He’ll be idealistic
The world needs idealistic people and let me tell you, a lot of them are born under the sign of Sagittarius. Because of our optimistic nature, we can’t help but look at the sunny side of humanity and “what’s possible”.
Some people have accused us of being too dreamy. To some extent, this may be true but not to the same degree of other signs, like Pisces.
8. He’ll be generous
To a fault, we tend to be very generous. Part of this stems from the joy we receive in making others happy. When we sense you need something, we try hard to give it to you.
Sometimes we over-give, particularly money, even though we can’t afford it. That’s because when a Sagittarius man is in love, he really focuses on his mate.
9. He’s going to be an outdoorsy guy
I’ve never met a Sag man that wasn’t into the outdoors. Most of us gravitate towards nature and will spend long hours, if not days, in the woods and parks.
A lot of us also like being by the water, particularly if we have Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces as a moon sign. Camping, fishing, boating – all of it is in our wheelhouse.
10. He’ll have hip and joint problems
Because we tend to be so active, we put a lot of pressure on our bodies. Many of us enjoy working out, running, jogging and even bodybuilding.
Over time this causes a lot of the guys to struggle with hip and joint problems. You may need to remind us to take supplements that help with these issues, like glucosamine.
11. Guys prefer going casual
Most of us are laid back and not into being stuffy or super formal. If given a choice, we’d much rather be in a pair of jeans and t-shirt as opposed to dress slacks and button downs.
That doesn’t mean we don’t like to put on a tie. We do. But in the general sense, casual is where we live.
12. He’ll want to sexually dominate you
This is one of those traits that can be viewed as either good or bad. If you like being dominated, given orders and told what to do, you’ll find a strong match with a Sag man.
But if you are hoping for submissive or romantic in the bedroom, you might want to look elsewhere. That’s not to say we aren’t into romance. We absolutely crave that. But before we can get comfortable with intimacy, we want the sexual energy to be in place.
A lot of us like it when women worship our bodies and follow our requests. In turn, we will zone in on your arousal areas and pleasure you like no one else.
13. Not big talkers
A big knock on Sag men is that we don’t like to talk a lot. To some degree, this is true, but people forget to put things in context.
Long story short, we tend to be a curious tribe. As such, we’d much rather listen to you and learn about who you are as opposed to espousing our opinions and ideas. As time goes on, however, this trait changes because our level of trust increases. Then, you can’t shut us up.
14. The men can be overconfident
It sucks to admit this, but it needs to be said. Many of us are overconfident. In fact, we share this trait with Leo men. We tend to believe we can do no wrong and as a result, end up screwing up.
The good news here is that once we get burned – usually through our own actions – we learn from the mistake and don’t repeat it. This is a characteristic that doesn’t change with the passage of time. It is just who we are.
15. He’ll be brutally honest
Most women want to be paired with a man who is honest and straightforward. You’ll find this trait in Sag men. But this doesn’t mean we are always tactful.
The truth is we tend to blurt things out, even though they are truthful, in ways that can hurt the people we love. We don’t mean to cause you pain. It’s just that we don’t have the best verbal filters when speaking the truth. Is this a good or bad trait? That’s up for you to decide.
16. He’s going to be intellectual
A lot of us are smart and like to involve ourselves in conversations about science, nature, the arts, and current events.
This doesn’t mean, however, that we don’t infuse emotion into our conversations. The opposite is true. Unlike some signs, like Scorpio men, we strike the right balance between talking about facts and speaking with passion.
17. The guys are adventurous
Excitement, risk-taking, new experiences. All of these describe how Sagittarius men are personality-wise. It is our nature to want to try new things and experience them for all they have to give.
If you want to be paired with a man who can offer you a departure from “the same old, same old”, you can do no better than a Sag man.
18. He may be careless
Hand in hand with being adventurous is another trait that isn’t nearly as cool. Sadly, many of us are careless. In other words, we don’t always give thought to our safety in our quest for stimulation.
If you go back in history and look at the number of men who have died in freak accidents, you’ll find many are Sag. For example, John F. Kennedy Jr was a Sagittarius. I guess I am telling you this because that overconfidence I talked about earlier can mix in with the carelessness and have disastrous results.
Don’t be afraid to reel our butts in if you think we are putting ourselves – or you – in danger.
19. The men like attention
Like all Fire signs, Sag men like attention. When you look at the field of entertainment, you’ll find a lot of popular vocalists and movie stars happen to be Sags.
But liking attention and seeking attention are two different things. After all, we aren’t narcissists. But we do enjoy being noticed for our work and praised for our accomplishments.
20. We like receiving oral – a lot
You won’t find this trait anywhere else, but I am listing because it’s a fact. Most of the Sag men I know, to a fault, like getting orally serviced.
While this may be true of most men in general, Sag guys really get into this activity. Some believe it is because our manhood is a conduit to our hearts.
Bottom line – if you are with one of us, expect oral to be a regular thing. It is said that when someone wears a blue topaz ring during intimacy, we tend to become extremely wild.
21. He’ll have a good sense of humor
Most of us enjoy a good laugh and have a strong sense of humor. All in all, this is probably a good trait.
The only time issues come up is when we can’t calibrate our ability to laugh with the moment. For example, I’ve been called out for being insensitive at a funeral because I laughed during a eulogy (which was supposed to be funny).
22. The men are terribly self-critical
Want to hear something unflattering about Sag men? Here it goes. A lot of us are terribly self-critical. In other words, we tend to judge ourselves harshly and have a knack for putting ourselves down.
This trait runs counter to our sunny life outlook, right? But here’s the thing – we’re great at pepping other people up but not so good at doing this for ourselves.
We may need your help at times to re-balance our negative self-talk.
23. He’s not going to procrastinate
There are a lot of signs that are terrible with deadlines and getting work done on time. This is not the case for most Sag men.
In fact, we will likely complete a task ahead of schedule. Some of this is a function of our fear of failure; a trait most all of the men have.
24. He’s going to need space
Every now and then, you’ll need to give us our space. It’s not that we don’t love you or care about what’s going on in your life. We totally do.
It’s just that we tend to absorb a lot of things at once and sometimes, it can get overwhelming. Having space allows us to decompress and put things into perspective. Don’t take it personally.
25. He’ll be slow to fall in love
A lot of Sag men take their time in relationships. This goes back to not wanting to be tied down. That said, once we feel comfortable with you, we lower our walls and will let you in.
When the stars align, and we fall in love with you – watch out. We’ll want nothing more than to be with you and make you happy. Once we commit, we don’t separate easily.
Dating, loving and being intimate with a Sagittarius man can be complicated. It takes a special type of person to capture our attention and win our hearts.
Good matches for us include Aquarius, Leo, and Libra. Not so great matches are Pisces, Scorpio, and Cancer.
I hope you found this page to be insightful. Thanks for stopping by.
Astrological chart of John F. Kennedy Jr. Astrotheme. 2018.
Belief in astrology as a coping tool. APA Psych-Net. 2018.