Erotic Hypnosis and Intimacy
Erotic hypnosis is a term that has been floating around the Internet for awhile now but what does it really mean? For example, is it some form of mind control that can be used to manipulate a partner in the bedroom?
On the flip side, can hypnosis be used to achieve the ultimate orgasm? Finally, can you put yourself into a trance to reduce sexual pain?
This article will dive deep into the entire issue of erotic hypnosis and provide concrete information about what erotic hypnosis is and is not.
So much of what is published online about erotic hypnosis is poorly researched and not steeped in the trappings of clinical psychology.
My hope in penning this piece is to offer clarity and provide answers to a topic that is widely misunderstood and often not discussed.
And so what follows are 10 facts about erotic hypnosis that might surprise you. Some of the material you’ll read may seem like common sense while other points will give you pause for reflection. I encourage you to read them all to put everything in context.
At the end of this post, I have included a poll that asks you about erotic hypnotherapy. It’s mostly just for entertainment so don’t take the results too seriously.
Erotic Hypnosis Perspective
You may be wondering about my qualifications to write this piece? If I were a reader, I’d want to know. Well, here it is – I’m a licensed psychotherapist in the state of Illinois and a Board Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. Finally, I hold a PhD in Psychology.
In my work as a clinician, I’m often asked about erotic hypnosis by clients who are seeking improvements in their sex life. An example might be learning how to intensify an orgasmic experience or becoming more mindful of a mate. It’s a common topic that clients frequently bring up in their quest for discovering alternative pathways greater intimacy.
Perhaps you can relate?
Let’s take a quick look at the basic characteristics of erotic hypnosis. Afterward, I’ll walk you through a little background and history of the world of hypnotherapy.
- Heightened state of awareness
- Greater ability to receive suggestion
- Focused thought and concentration
- Stimulation of active imagination
- Detachment from the physical self
- Access to the psycho-spiritual self
- Greater sensitivity to sound and touch
- Heightened ability to reach sexual symbiosis
What is Hypnosis Anyway?
Before we explore 10 facts about erotic hypnosis, it is important to have a realistic idea of what hypnosis is. Therefore, I’m going to provide you a straightforward definition of this term, free of clinical jargon.
Hypnosis is a heightened state of awareness that occurs on the conscious and subconscious level. While hypnotized, a person enters an altered state of reality, which opens up a psychological doorway to the power of suggestion.
In this place, a hypnotized person can access different ways of thinking, through focused suggestion and imagination.
When you think of hypnosis, think of it as a tool that you can call upon to step into a world of calmness and inner peace. It doesn’t involve swinging watches, Svengali or other stereotypes that are the stuff of pseudo-science or entertainment.
Finally, hypnosis is real and has been clinically demonstrated to help some people with a variety of issues. Examples include addiction recovery, pain management and relief from symptoms of irritable bowel syndrome (IBS).
And yes, it has been shown in studies to help people achieve greater intimacy.
What is Hypnotherapy?
We will get into this more and more as this article continues but for now, it is important that you understand that hypnotherapy is not “therapy” itself but instead, a tool that is used as a therapy adjunct.
History of Hypnosis
Believe it or not, hypnosis has been around for thousands of years with roots that can be traced back to the time of the ancient Hindus and Greeks. It has gone by many different names, including “temple sleep”, “magnetic therapy” and “mesmerism”.
Hypnosis really started to catch on with the masses during the 1700’s and 1800’s when Franz Mesmer, an Austrian physician, began to research the entire construct of hypnosis and hypnotherapy. He wrote various scientific papers on the topic and offered the world a working definition of its meaning.
At the time, many in the medical community challenged his assertions with many folks suggesting it was the stuff of quackery. He was called a charlatan – a conman who was selling the psychological version of snake oil.
But as time went on and perceptions about hypnosis changed, he work began to gain acceptance. Back then, as now, hypnosis was considered to be an alternative form of therapy. Franz Mesmer is thought of by many as the “Father of Hypnosis”. But is that designation accurate?
In truth – it is a common misconception. While Mesmer certainly was considered a major mover and shaker in the field, James Braid is the actual father of hypnosis.
Finally under this point, hypnosis today is a highly researched area of study within the field of human psychology. Peer reviewed research articles are published on a regular basis, appearing in a number of periodicals.
Perhaps the best known of these is the American Journal of Clinical Hypnotherapy, which can be accessed online through an organizational called the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis, founded by Milton Erikson, a famous psychiatrist who specialized in medical hypnosis. He also worked with anxiety issues.
Now that we’ve completed a cook’s tour of this topic, let’s move on to the 10 facts about erotic hypnosis. Under each point, expansive information has been shared as a way of deepening your knowledge.
Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!
1. Erotic Hypnosis is Real
This point may seem obvious but is worth mentioning all the same. Erotic hypnosis is a very real form of hypnotherapy. The term itself has caught on in recent years, thanks to clever marketing efforts on the part of some in the adult video entertainment world – and YouTube Videos.
Prior to the name “erotic” being infused into the definition, this form of hypnosis was previously referred to as “recreational hypnosis” or “hypnotic fantasy”.
2. Used in Power Exchange Relationships
Many people engage in various forms of erotic hypnosis in power and exchange relationships.
Here, one person assumes a dominant role while the other, a submissive role. This is part of a dynamic known as “fantasy play”.
3. Erotic Hypnosis Doesn’t Involve Sleep
A common misconception regarding erotic hypnosis is that the hypnotized person is asleep. The truth is nobody is asleep. Remember, hypnosis is a heightened state of awareness. You are completely aware of everything going on around you.
And when you think about this, doesn’t it make sense?
When you are asleep, chances are you aren’t aware of anything because you are in a subconscious state. But when you are hypnotized, you don’t slip into consciousnesses. Instead, you are fully conscious. The difference, however, is that you are more open to the power of suggestion.
4. You Don’t Need a Hypnotherapist to Be Hypnotized
Believe it or not, you don’t need to see a hypnotherapist to be hypnotized. At its core, all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. It is best to think of hypnosis as a skill that you can learn that’s similar to mindful meditation.
In this way, you can teach yourself how to enter into a more relaxed state of being, which over the span of time may help you to achieve a more intimate experience with a mate.
5. Erotic Hypnosis Involves Creative Visualization
When you engage in hypnosis, including erotic hypnosis, you are stimulating your active imagination. This is what famous psychologist Carl Jung believed helped a person access pathways to the the psycho-spiritual world.
If you believe in things like spirit animals and animal guides, you are in essence accessing your active imagination.
6. Deep Breathing as Part of Erotic Hypnosis
As part of the hypnotic experience, deep breathing is often involved. Breathing helps to calm the mind and body, allowing for greater oxygen flow through neuro-pathways.
This can be helpful when dealing with issues involving pain or psychological barriers to pleasure. A practical example of how deep breathing and hypnosis go hand in hand is when a person conducts a body scan.
7. Role Play Can Be Part of Erotic Hypnosis
Keeping in mind that erotic hypnosis involves the active imagination as previously mentioned, it is important you know that role play is often part of the hypnotic experience.
In this way, a hypnotized person is able to assume a given role.
8. Erotic Hypnosis DOES NOT Involve Mind Control
One of the biggest myths on the planet is that hypnosis – including erotic hypnosis – is a form of mind control. That simply is not true. When a person is hypnotized, they are in complete control of their thoughts and physical body.
If you are hoping to hypnotize someone to “control” them, you are simply buying into a myth. Sorry to burst your bubble but I’m just being real with you.
That said, if you or your partner want to pretend you are being controlled as part of a role play scenario – that’s a completely different story.
9. You Need to Be Open to the Experience
Hypnosis is similar to other alternative forms of consciousness. In short, you need to be open to the experience in order for something beneficial to happen.
If you are closed minded, hold rigid thoughts or have problems relaxing, hypnosis may not be helpful.
10. Erotic Hypnosis Won’t Cure Relationship Problems
While hypnosis may help you to achieve a more pleasurable sexual experience with your mate, it is not going to magically fix or repair other issues happening in your relationship.
If you and your partner have problems with money, communications, decision making and so forth, hypnotherapy isn’t going to fix things. Hypnosis also won’t make someone magically like you or cause them fall in love.
Finally, erotic hypnosis won’t cure underlying relationship issues, such problems with trust or challenges around infidelity.
Learning About Hypnosis
While I can’t be sure, I’m guessing you stumbled upon this article because you are hoping to learn as much as possible about hypnosis and by extension, erotic hypnosis.
If so, there are a number of excellent books available for you to consider. One resource you might want to checkout is entitled: Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by Mark Wiseman (See Amazon).
What’s nice about this book is how it offers meaningful, concrete ways to help create a more intimate erotic experience with your mate, devoid of the silly hocus pocus that is so prevalent when it comes to this topic.
Erotic Hypnosis Video
You may still be wondering if erotic hypnosis is legitimate? Well, here is a video that I encourage you to watch for greater insight.
Below, I have published a poll that asks you to anonymously identify your motivations for wanting information about erotic hypnosis. The poll itself is unscientific. The results, however, can be used to see how your motivations compare with others .
Erotic Hypnosis Myths
While some of the myths have already been dispelled above, there are a few more I’d like to walk you through. Let’s take a look.
- People with green eyes are more likely to be hypnotized
- People with blue eyes cannot be hypnotized
- Young people can’t be hypnotized
- Erotic Owl tattoos act as conduits for intimacy with hypnosis
- Men can’t be hypnotized
- Erotic hypnosis can happen for everyone (it can’t)
- Hypnotherapy is therapy itself (it’s not).
- You need to visit a sex therapist to undergo erotic hypnosis
If you are hoping to learn more about erotic hypnosis, I encourage you to read all you can. As stated at the beginning of this article, there is a lot of misinformation about this topic floating around the web.
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