Erotic Hypnosis and Intimacy
Erotic hypnosis is a term that has been floating around the Internet for some time now but what does this phrase really mean? Is this a form of mind control that can be used to get your sexual partner to do whatever you want?
Might it be possible to achieve the ultimate orgasm simply by being hypnotized? Finally, is it possible to engage in some form of self-hypnosis to help you achieve the most powerful sexual experience of your lifetime?
This article will take a deep look at the entire issue of erotic hypnosis and provide concrete information about what erotic hypnosis is and by extension – what it is not.
So much of what is currently published online about hypnosis is poorly researched and is not steeped in psychology, human behavior or the social sciences.
Until now …
And so what follows are 10 facts about erotic hypnosis you might not know about. Some of the material make strike you as common sense while other areas will give you pause for reflection. Read them all in order to better understand their meaning.
At the end of this post, I have included a poll that asks you about erotic hypnotherapy. It’s mostly just for fun.
Erotic Hypnosis Perspective
As we continue along the way, I want to disclose to you my qualifications to author this article and bit about my background. I am a licensed psychotherapist in the state of Illinois and am a National Board Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. Finally, I hold a PhD in Psychology.
In my work as a clinician, I am often asked about erotic hypnosis by clients who are seeking to better to make improvements in their sex life and to intensify the orgasmic experience with a partner. In fact, it is a common question that comes up in couples counseling where two people are hoping to achieve greater intimacy.
Let’s take a quick look at the basic characteristics of erotic hypnosis and then walk through a little background and history of the world of hypnotherapy.
- Heightened state of awareness
- Greater ability to receive suggestion
- Focused thought and concentration
- Stimulation of active imagination
- Detachment from the physical self
- Access to the psycho-spiritual self
- Greater sensitivity to sound and touch
- Heightened ability to reach sexual symbiosis
What is Hypnosis Anyway?
Before we explore 10 facts about erotic hypnosis, it is important to know what hypnosis truly is. And while there are lots of definitions available on the Internet, I’m going to provide a basic one to you that is as free of as much clinical jargon as possible.
Hypnosis is a heightened state of awareness that occurs on the conscious and subconscious level. It is a heightened state of awareness that allows a person to experience an altered state of reality, which opens up a psychological doorway to the power of suggestion.
In this place, a hypnotized person can access different ways of thinking, through focused suggestion and imagination.
When you think of hypnosis, think of it as a tool that can be accessed to step into a world of calmness, relaxation and inner peace. It doesn’t involve swinging watches, Svengali or other mumbo jumbo that is based in pseudo-science or entertainment.
Finally, hypnosis is real and has been clinically demonstrated to help some people with a variety of issues, ranging from addiction to pain and to a lesser or greater degree, intimacy.
What is Hypnotherapy?
We will get into this more and more as this article continues but for now, it is important that you understand that hypnotherapy is not “therapy” itself but instead, a tool that is used as a therapy adjunct.
History of Hypnosis
Believe it or not, hypnosis has been around for thousands of years with history variations of hypnosis and hypnotherapy back to the time of the ancient Hindus and Greeks. It has gone by many different names, including “temple sleep”, “magnetic therapy” and “mesmerism”.
Hypnosis really started to catch on with the masses during the 1700s and 1800s when Franz Mesmer, an Austrian physician, began to seriously research the entire construct of hypnosis and hypnotherapy. He wrote various scientific papers and offered the world a working definition of its meaning.
At the time, many in the medical community challenged his assertions with some suggesting it was the stuff of quackery. In this way, it was thought of in the same way some people think of astrology, such as Scorpio Symbolism or Taurus personality traits.
That would later change as his work and hypnotherapy began to gain acceptance. Back then, as now, hypnosis is considered to be an alternative form of therapy. Franz Mesmer is thought of by many in the psychology community as the “Father of Hypnosis”. But is that designation really true?
In truth – it is a common misconception. While Mesmer certainly was considered a major mover and shaker in the field, James Braid is the actual father of hypnosis.
Finally under this point, hypnosis today is a highly researched area of study within the field of behavioral sciences. Peer reviewed research articles are published on a regular basis, appearing in a number of periodicals.
Perhaps the best known of these is the American Journal of Clinical Hypnotherapy, which can be accessed online through an organizational called the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis, founded by Milton Erikson, a famous psychiatrist who specialized in medical hypnosis (see post on hypnosis for pain).
Let’s move on to the 10 facts about erotic hypnosis, which is the general purpose of this article. Under each of the areas, specific information has been provided as a gateway to knowledge and insight.
Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!
1 Erotic Hypnosis is Real
This point may seem obvious but is work mentioning all the same. Erotic hypnosis is a very real form of hypnotherapy. The term itself has caught on in recent years, thanks to clever marketing efforts on the part of some in the adult video entertainment world – and YouTube Videos.
Prior to the name “erotic” being tossed into the definitional construct, this form of hypnosis was simply referred to as “recreational hypnosis” or “hypnotic fantasy”.
2 Used in Power Exchange Relationships
Many people engage in various forms of erotic hypnosis in power and exchange relationships.
Here, one person assumes a dominant role while the other part assumes a submissive role. This is part of a dynamic known as “fantasy play”.
3 Erotic Hypnosis Doesn’t Involve Sleep
A common misconception regarding erotic hypnosis is that the hypnotized person is asleep. The truth is nobody is asleep. Remember, hypnosis is a heightened state of awareness.
If you are asleep, heightened awareness, at least in the clinical sense, cannot take place on the conscious level. Make sense?
4 You Don’t Need a Hypnotherapist to Be Hypnotized
Believe it or not, you don’t need to see a hypnotherapist to be hypnotized. At its core, all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. It is best to think of hypnosis as a skill that you can learn that is similar to mindful meditation.
In this way, you can teach yourself how to enter into a more relaxed state of being, which over the span of time may help you to achieve more intimate experiences with your partner.
5 Erotic Hypnosis Involves Creative Visualization
When you engage in hypnosis, including erotic hypnosis, you are stimulating your active imagination. This is what famous psychologist Carl Jung believed helped a person access pathways to what some call the psycho-spiritual world.
If you believe in things like spirit animals and animal guides, you are in essence accessing your active imagination.
6 Deep Breathing as Part of Erotic Hypnosis
As part of the hypnotic experience, deep breathing is often involved. Breathing helps to calm the mind and body, allowing for greater oxygen flow through neuro-pathways.
This can be helpful when dealing with issues involving pain or psychological barriers to pleasure.
7 Role Play Can Be Part of Erotic Hypnosis
Bearing in mind that erotic hypnosis involves the active imagination as previously mentioned, it is important that you know that role play is often part of the hypnotic experience.
In this way, a hypnotized person is able to assume a given role.
8 Erotic Hypnosis DOES NOT Involve Mind Control
One of the biggest myths on the planet is that hypnosis – including erotic hypnosis – involves mind control. It is simply not true. When a person is hypnotized, they are in complete control of their thoughts and physical body.
If you are hoping to hypnotize someone to “control” them during intimate contact, you are simply buying into a myth.
Now if you or your partner want to pretend you are being controlled as part of role play – that is a completely different story.
9 You Need to Be Open to the Experience
Hypnosis is similar to other alternative forms of consciousness in that you need to be open to the experience in order for something beneficial to happen.
If you are closed minded, hold rigid thoughts or have problems relaxing, hypnosis may not be helpful.
10 Erotic Hypnosis Won’t Cure Relationship Problems
While hypnosis may help you to achieve more desired sexual experiences with your significant other, it is not going to magically fix or repair other issues happening in your relationship.
If you and your mate have problems with money, communications, decision making and so forth, hypnotherapy isn’t going to fix it. It also won’t make someone more attracted to you or on the flip-side, you more attracted to them.
Finally, erotic hypnosis won’t cure underlying relationship issues, such as communication problems, financial challenges, etc.
Learning About Hypnosis
There is a good chance that because you found this article, you are hoping to learn as much as you possibly can about hypnosis and by extension, erotic hypnosis.
There are a number of excellent books available on the marketplace for you to consider. One resource you might want to consider is entitled: Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by Mark Wiseman.
What is nice about this book is that it offers meaningful, concrete ways to help create a more intimate erotic experience with your mate in a way that does away with the silly hocus pocus that is so prevalent when it comes to this topic.
Erotic Hypnosis Video
You may still be wondering if erotic hypnosis is legitimate? Well, here is a video that offers some insight that you might want to check out.
Below, I have published a poll that asks you to anonymously identify your personal motivations for wanting to know more about erotic hypnosis. The poll itself is unscientific. The results however can be used to help you better understand why some people are interested in this topic.
Erotic Hypnosis Myths
While some of the myths have already been dispelled in this article, there are a few more that might be helpful to walk through. Let’s take a look.
- People with green eyes are more likely to be hypnotized
- People with blue eyes cannot be hypnotized
- Cancer Zodiac signs cannot be hypnotized
- Erotic Owl tattoos act as conduits for intimacy with hypnosis
- Men can’t be hypnotized
- Erotic hypnosis can happen for everyone (it can’t)
- Hypnotherapy is therapy itself (it’s not).
- You need to visit a sex therapist to undergo erotic hypnosis
If you are hoping to learn more about erotic hypnosis, I encourage you to read all you can. As stated at the beginning of this article, there is a lot of misinformation about this topic floating around the Internet.
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