Is Your Girlfriend Faking It In Bed?

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Trending News: Link drawn between attachment styles and faking orgasms.

If you are like most guys, you probably enjoy intimacy most when you know your partner is being pleased. But what if I told you that your girlfriend is putting on a show?

Moreover, what if the culmination of your efforts was nothing more than an illusion?

Well, I hate to break it to you but it’s possible that’s exactly what’s going on, according to a newly released study appearing in The Journal of Sex Research.

To make a long story short, a woman’s attachment style, which speaks to how avoidant or anxious she is in close relationships, is linked to her likelihood of faking an orgasm.

Investigators surveyed 348 women and discovered that those who reported faking it were more likely to have so called avoidant attachment styles, agreeing with statements like, “I am nervous when partners get too close to me” while not agreeing with statements such as, “It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.”

The idea of faking it is not new. There is some research to suggest that over 30% of women have done so in the context of long term relationships.

And it is not just women. It turns out that men do it too. Apparently, one in four guys have reported doing it at some point, according to Tonic.

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“Individuals with secure attachment maintain a healthy interdependence of sexuality and attachment,” the authors of the study explained. “In contrast, the relationship between attachment and sexuality is disrupted in individuals with insecure attachment orientations.”

Curious about this phenomenon, Guy Counseling spoke to Chicago based couples therapist Jen Lawal to gain her impressions.

“The study is interesting because it pulls back the curtain on why some people fake it in the bedroom. I’d like to see more research on this front because I do think it’s more complicated than what appears in the research,” says Lawal.

“And it is fair to say that men struggle with some of the same issues when it comes to attachment. To what degree and intensity, however, is something that needs to be explored more,” she adds.

So, there you have it folks. It’s possible your mate may be faking it during intimacy. The question is, can you tell?

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