The good, bad, and ugly on the Leo man
Are you attracted to a Leo man? Hoping to understand how Leo men operate in love and relationships? Do you want better insight into this fire sign?
If the answer is yes, you aren’t alone. Lots of people are curious about Leos because they are strangely attracted to them.
Can you relate?
The reason I penned this piece is to help you as a reader better understand the Leo mind. A lot of what you’ll read on the Internet about the guys is confusing. And to keep it real, much of it is bogus.
I should know – I am a Leo Man.
During my lifetime, I’ve spent more hours than I can shake a stick at studying astrology and ancient mysticism. Like a lot people, I’m drawn to the supernatural.
Because my sun sign is Leo and my moon in Scorpio, I’ve naturally gravitated towards all things karmic. For reasons that I do not fully understand, I’ve had an interest in the spiritual forces that draw people together.
Long ago, I learned not to question why I am drawn to this topic. Instead, I’ve simply accepted it as a gift from the universe.
Before we dive too deep, I need to be upfront with you and share that I’m not an astrologer or psychic.
Instead, I’m just a man who has studied psychology with a deep interest in the psycho-spiritual. If that term is new to you, I’ll give you a quick overview.
Psycho-spirituality is the blending of spiritual concepts with psychological principles. If you’ve ever studied the human mind, you’ve probably heard of a mover and shaker named Carl Jung.
He was a famous psychiatrist who is largely credited for his work with dream interpretation. For example, if you were to dream about rats, he believed there was (potential) spiritual meaning behind the imagery.
Jung also helped people to better understand their personalities through the unconventional. Here, I am talking about astrology. And for what it is worth, Jung was a Leo man, born July 26.
I’m sharing these things with you to help contextualize all that follows. There’s no hidden agenda here. I only want you to walk away from this page filled with new insight.
Additionally, I must admit I did not write this all on my own. Through guidance and understanding, I employed the help of a shaman who happens to be a Virgo male.
Now that you have some basic background information, let’s dive deep into 25 truths about a Leo man in love and relationships. You are about to get the real deal – from the first-person perspective.
1. He’s passionate in bed
Out of all the Zodiac signs, Leo is one of the most passionate. Much of this directly relates to our sign’s ruling planet, the sun.
It is for this reason Leo is considered a Fire Sign, one of the four elemental groupings in the traditions of horoscopic astrology.
When making love to a Leo man, you are going to feel intensity. This passion intensifies the more you stroke our ego. In other words, the more we feel adorned, the more we’re going to respond like wild, uninhibited beasts.
2. He’s going to be charming
Leos, perhaps more than any other sign, are charming. In fact, one could argue that the males are the most charming on the planet.
When you are in the presence of a Leo man, you are going to know it. We typically grab everyone’s attention in the room, often without speaking a word.
Moreover, when we speak to you, even if meeting for the first time, we’re going to make you feel like the center of the universe.
You need to know our charm can be powerfully seductive. Many have reported being swept up in a current of energy without realizing what was happening.
This is particularly true if we want to bed you. We’re not going to use alcohol or other social lubricants to get your guard down. Instead, we will apply the full gravity of our alpha personas.
If you’ve ever been with a Leo man, you know what I’ve said here to be true.
3. He’ll be dominant and uninhibited
Leo is represented by the Lion. This is an important factoid because lions are the stuff of raw, pure energy. When we want something, we usually get it.
In practical terms, this means Leo men are going to be down with most things sexually, including “kinky stuff” (read between the lines).
In almost all cases, the guys tend to be dominant. It’s just who we are. But this doesn’t mean we can’t be submissive.
Depending on your approach and ability to make us feel exalted, we will let down our guard. When this happens, you’ll be in control – if just for a short time.
Be forewarned. This can take time to happen. By nature, we are very cautious. We also happen to be natural born leaders and aren’t very good at taking orders from others.
Ancient mysticism teaches us that when Leo men are in the presence of their birthstone, Peridot, we become sexually submissive.
Speaking only for myself, I can attest this to be true.
4. He may be self-focused
There’s no way to sugarcoat this trait or pretend it is something that it is not. In the general sense, many Leo men are self-focused.
Please don’t confuse this with being a narcissist because the two terms aren’t the same. Narcissists don’t have the ability to care about (or sense) the needs of others.
Self-focused people, however, do.
The difference, at least in terms of the guys, is that we are driven by a sense of purpose. We’re talking about confident men who know exactly what we want and will do what is necessary to make it happen.
This doesn’t mean we don’t care about your needs. But it is to say that in pursuit of our dreams, we have the propensity to minimize others.
This may not be a pleasant thing to read about. But you came here for the real deal, right?
5. Super competitive
If there is one thing that can be said about the lion, it’s that he is competitive. Depending on how you look at things, this can either be a pro or a con. The guys are natural born athletes and skilled at making the most of their physical dominance.
This competitive streak also holds true in other life areas, such as business and entrepreneurship. Again, when you think of Leo men, think natural born leaders.
The good part is that most end up as winners, which in the monetary sense can mean financial success. The bad part is that we sometimes have a “win at any cost” mentality.
In romantic relationships, you can expect the lion to fight tooth and nail to win you over. We’re not afraid to push back against competitors and in a strange way, enjoy the competition.
This leads us to another trait – one you need to pay attention to.
6. He wounds easily
For all the talk about the lion being dominant and competitive, it may seem odd to read that Leo men wound easily. Well, I hate to break it to you but it’s true.
Leo men like to be liked. Because they hold themselves to high standards, it’s not easy for us to hear criticism. This doesn’t mean we aren’t open to feedback. We are. But WOW is it super important to be careful on how you give it.
When the criticism is offered constructively and devoid of judgment, it’s usually well received. But if you personalize it or get nasty, like some signs are prone to such as Aquarius, you can expect the response to be a cold shoulder.
Yes, we are horribly sensitive, and it doesn’t take much to wound us. It sucks admitting this but that’s how the guys are.
7. He’s possessive and territorial
This is another trait that I’m not proud to admit. As a tribe, men who fall under the Leo sign tend to be extremely possessive and territorial.
Some of this is instinctual, like the lion who protects his pride. What is ours is ours and nobody better touch. This can be good or bad, again, depending on how you view things.
The good is that you’ll know he cares about you and doesn’t want others moving in on his territory. The bad is that we tend to overreact to perceived threats, sometimes with very unfortunate consequences.
If we sense someone else wants you and they make moves towards that direction, I’m just going to level with and say this: run.
“The men are possessive and territorial”
8. He’ll be very protective
This trait goes hand in hand with what has been described above. Most of us are ridiculously protective of the people we love. This is particularly true if you happen to be a mate or one of our children.
Leo men will not hesitate to defend a loved one, even if this means placing ourselves in harm’s way. Ask anyone who has been partnered with one of us and they’ll confirm what I’ve shared.
9. He’s resilient
When you pair up with a male Leo, you need to know they are resilient. This doesn’t mean they don’t hurt or feel the pain of setbacks. But it does mean they don’t wallow in their sadness and become victims of learned helplessness.
When you think of the proverbial guy who picks himself up by his bootstraps, conjure up images of this sign.
10 Expect him to be affectionate
If there’s one thing that can be said about us, we tend to be affectionate. We enjoy spending time with the people we love and make the most of it.
Oh, and here is something. Many of us secretly like to cuddle. Just like a lion curls up with a mate, so same holds true for Leo guys. Part of this is our natural desire to be with others.
An awesome night with us might be watching an action film on the couch while spooning, preferably with nothing on.
11. He’s going to be extroverted
You probably already knew this trait, but it is being mentioned all the same. We are very extroverted. Being around people in social situations is what makes us tick.
Now I won’t lie. Part of being super social means craving attention. For better or for worse, that’s something we really enjoy.
Being extroverted can be helpful to other signs, such as the Leo and Pisces pairing. In a strange way, we help folks who are introverted to better express themselves.
That said, it can be difficult for us to be with other lions because it’s way too competitive.
12. We’re horribly stubborn
Yet another characteristic that I’m not proud to reveal but am doing it all the same. Because we are considered a “fixed” sign, we aren’t that great with change.
Moreover, when we make a decision about something and feel strongly about it, we often to cling to it and become intractable. We do this even when we know, deep inside, we might be wrong.
The best way to handle these types of situations is by selling us on your ideas and how adopting your approach helps us to save face.
When properly executed, this usually will move us to your way of thinking.
13. He’s a caretaker
On the whole, most of us are caretakers. We enjoy providing our mates with a comfortable life and try our hardest to surround ourselves and those we love with only the best.
One caveat with Leo men – we prefer to be the breadwinners. This doesn’t mean our mates can’t make more money than us but if given a choice, we like it when we make more.
Yes, this may seem a bit controlling. That’s because it is.
Again, this all goes back to that “pride” thing I talked about in different parts of this post.
14. He’ll be generous
Many have observed that we are generous – perhaps to a fault. Because of our large capacity to love, we don’t mind giving to people or causes we care about.
Some of the things we donate to are the arts and philanthropic causes, such as human rights, civil rights and children in need.
If a family member is having financial trouble, it is not unusual for us to offer a helping paw – I mean hand.
Sometimes, this generosity can get the best of us, causing some Leo men to give more than they should.
15 He’ll have heart and back problems
Like all signs, some are prone to medical problems more than others. For Leo guys, our health issues are connected to two main areas; the heart and the back.
A lot of us drink more than we should, which is not so great for the cardiovascular system. Over time, this can cause inflammation of the heart. It’s one of the reasons why a lot of us live with cardiovascular disease.
We also tend to have back problems. And we make this problem worse because we’re too stubborn to visit a doctor.
If you are ever paired with one of us, watch out for these issues and don’t be afraid to bring it to our attention.
16. He’s going to be straightforward
If you are looking for a guy who says what he means and means what he says, you’ll find just that with men who fall under this sign.
We aren’t ones to mince words or use a bunch of flowery language to sugarcoat what we think.
The good aspect of this trait is that you’ll know exactly where your man stands on most issues.
The bad part, however, is that we can sometimes say biting things that come off as insensitive.
17. Some of us are cocky
I’m willing to bet that you won’t see this trait listed on most websites because it’s not very flattering.
But here is the deal – a lot of us are self-assured and kind of cocky. You will observe this in how we talk, walk, and behave.
There are some folks who find this to be an attractive quality. Others find it to be a major turn off. Much will depend on your sign.
If you catch us being overconfident, it’s ok to gently reel us in. Just keep in mind point number six above.
18. We have ugly tempers
Yes, this trait is unfortunately true. In fact, all fire signs are cursed with the bad temper thing.
But in the case of Leo men, we aren’t ones to hold on to anger. When we explode, it usually happens very fast and then it’s over.
You can look at this as either a pro or con.
One word of caution: When Leo is paired with Scorpio and our anger comes out, the Scorpion has a way of putting us in our place and not in a good way.
19. The guys are impatient
If you are looking to get with a guy who is patient, you probably won’t find this with male Leos. Don’t get me wrong, we can exercise patience, but wow is it a struggle.
Because many of us are impulsive, we sometimes move ahead with something without always thinking it through.
Moreover, many of us know what we want and prefer obtaining it now as opposed to later.
Is this a good trait or a bad one? You’ll have to decide.
20. He’ll work in the public eye
This trait isn’t true for all, but it is for many. A lot of us are employed in jobs that face the public.
Here, I’m talking about executive leadership, management, acting, and politics. All of this goes back to our desire to seek attention.
But wouldn’t you expect this from extroverts?
“Some Leo men are cocky”
21. Your man will be optimistic
Like our ruling planet – the sun – most of us have a bright outlook. We like to focus on the positive in life and center our attention on the good.
This may be why some signs that are prone to depression, are drawn to us. An example can be found in the Pisces Leo match.
Part of the reason we like to see the glass as half full is that we know that if we dwell on the negative, we rob ourselves of energy.
22. The guys are energetic
If you are looking to pair with a guy who likes to do different things, you’ll find a strong match with Leo men.
Most of us are full of energy and struggle with staying in place.
Some have accused us of being adrenaline junkies. I won’t mislead you here – that stereotype is kind of true.
Be it hiking in the woods or checking out a movie or enjoying sexy time for long periods, we’re down with it all.
23 He’ll be independent
One thing you need to know about us is that we’re super independent. In simple terms, this means we would rather take care of you and not the other way around.
This doesn’t mean we don’t want affection. We totally do.
But what we aren’t very good at is letting other people do things for us. We’re also not good at accepting support from people, even when we need it.
24 The men are loyal
You can feel very secure knowing that when you become romantically involved with one of us, we tend to be loyal.
This doesn’t mean we don’t have a wondering eye. And yes, a lot of us love to flirt for attention.
But at the end of the day, we’re going to remain loyal to you. In turn, we expect nothing but the same.
25. We love to laugh
Humor, laughter and good times. These are all things we enjoy. Because our true north is optimistic, we often find humor in the absurd.
If you are going through a tough time or simply need to get outside of your head, a Leo man can help make that happen. He’ll gain pleasure in knowing you are happy.
Being in a relationship with a Leo man can be challenging. But if you give us a chance and can stomach our need for attention, you’ll find a loving and affectionate mate.
I hope you found the material on this page useful. Thanks for stopping by.
Gaynor, D. R. (1999). Changes in cognitive structure associated with experiences of spiritual transformation. (transcendence). Dissertation Abstracts International: Section B: The Sciences and Engineering, 60(5-B), 2378.